The Promised Relationship


This picture reminds me of something important. I feel that most women in this world, at least in my life, have spent part of their girlhood intensely loving someone. I would not say an asshole or a complete moron, but that someone is just not Mr.Right. They are not "The One". (Note: this is not for women only, but for man also, but to simplify I will be specific).

Let say, you are in one relationship for some time. Enough for you to feel that you both are meant to be. You are so sure that he is The One.


You know each other well enough, so you both understand each other even without words. You have been friends for some time before, and you both are the best friend to each other. You know his past stories, and he knows yours, and you both accept and appreciate it well enough, to know that past is past. You both attracted to each other, physically and emotionally. For you, he is too understandable, as you for him.

You are in a good relationship. You share all things with him, and he does too. You laugh and cry with him, and he does too. You share most deep and hidden fear, thoughts, dreams, and worries. No secrets between you. Every single thing could be a very enjoyable moment to share. You both share very great romance. His hands perfectly fit yours, his arms around your waist wonderfully, his chest is the perfect place for your head.

You have discussed many things in the future, what you are going to be, what you are going to do. You have planned many things ahead, with both of you in it. You both support each other's dreams and plans and found out that your visions are in sync. Most of all, you both have asked God's guidance from the very beginning, and it all seems going well. In short, you both are the perfect couple.


Then, one day, in the middle of nowhere, the relationship breaks. It could because of another girl, either she makes him realize that you are not what he wants nor needs, or maybe he cheated on you. It could be family things, his parents don't like you or your parents don't like him. It could be, out of your control, you hurt him or he to you. It could be because of wrong time or situation. Anything could be the reason, but the result is your relationship is over and he is gone. He left you, shattered. He give up on you. Period.

From my observations about many precious women in my life and my own experience, I conclude that women have this tendency to holding on. Tendency to doing stupid things, in the name of love. Calling him back miserably, cry herself to sleep almost every night for months or years, re-reading all sweet mails and texts, drown in melancholic poems-songs-and-movies, faithfully (read: foolishly) waiting him until he knows what he were doing, chasing him all over the world (even give him more than what he deserve: more kisses, more hugs, less boundaries, less clothes even give her virginity away!). All for this so-called Mr.Right. Admit it. We, women, are afraid that someday we can't find another perfect man just like he was.

Ladies, believe me. It ain't gonna work.

Have you ever heard of the story, when Israelites were out from Egypt? Pay attention to this:

Exodus 7:3 ---- And I will make Pharaoh's heartstubborn and hard, and multiply My signs, My wonders, and miracles in the land of Egypt.

Exodus 11:10 ---- Moses and Aaron did all these wonders and miracles before Pharaoh; and the Lord hardened Pharaoh's stubbornheart, and he did not let the Israelites go out of his land.

Exodus 14:4 ---- I will harden (make stubborn, strong) Pharaoh's heart, that he will pursue them, and I will gain honor and glory over Pharaoh and all his host, and the Egyptians shall know that I am the Lord. And they did so.

Have you ever wonder why your "perfect" relationship, the one you've been praying for, suddenly comes to its end? You think God does not want you to be happy? You think God does not bless your perfect relationship, like what you've asked?

But, have you ever wonder that God is the one who make it that way?

I do not say that God like you to be sad. No, He cries with you through all the process.

See, Pharaoh's heart was stubborn and hard, but it is for the work of the Lord. God made it that way. For what? It is to multiply His signs and wonders, to glorify Him. For whatever reasons behind your broken relationships, one thing for sure, someone's heart had been hardened. For what? It is because God loves you very much, so He doesn't want you trapped in the wrong relationship for your whole life.

But that was the perfect relationship!

Well, Israelites were in Egypt for so long time, they worked there, their (big) family was there. Somehow, Egypt was their land. For Israelites, lives in Egypt is comfortable, it is perfect for them. But Egypt still not the right of Israelites, because God Himself has promised The Promised Land.

Remember what Israelites was done, right after they were released? They grumbled, deplored their situation, cried unto the Lord. They mumbled and mad at Moses and Aaron. They asked to go back to Egypt, rather than The Promised Land.

Numbers 14:4 ---- And they said one to another, Let us choose a captain and return to Egypt.

I'm not saying that if you meet obstacles, either small or big, in your relationship, you should letting it go or give up easily. No! True love is not effortless. Love needs effort and work.

I'm saying that if God have removes people in your life, if He have make you out from 'Egypt' relationship, because He has prepare 'The Promised' relationship for you, please do not act like Israelites back then. I'm not saying that he is bad person, but maybe he is 'The Promised' for others, not for you.

Ow yeah, you will find desert on your way to 'The Promised' relationship. It is period of sorrow, loneliness and sadness after the relationship is over. It is normal to feel that way, after your lovey dovey relationship. But have faith and surrender to the Lord, and He will give you total peace. He loves you more than you know.

Psalm 34:17-18 ---- When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their distress and troubles. The Lord is close to those who are of a broken heart and saves such as are crushed with sorrow for sin and are humbly and thoroughly penitent.

Beautiful Ladies, please know that He already prepared 'The Promised' relationship for you. Do not settle for 'Egypt' relationship. Before the time comes, fill yourself with the Love of Jesus, The Lover of Your Soul.

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